This past Sunday Rich spoke on “transition” and as a Christian how do we deal with that? And also what are we feeling during those times?
Everyone will face some sort of transition in their life. Some are much larger in scope than others are. Some people will face transition more than others. And also sometimes you will have seasons of constant transition in your life and sometimes you will have none. Having experienced many transitions and also some seasons where nothing changes I don’t think one is better than the other, it all depends on how you deal with it. Obviously, as Rich pointed out, some people (Christian or not) are unable to deal with a change in routine. It is disruptive and can leave you confused or feeling alone.
I have felt this before as I have constantly had seasons of transition in moving to different locations. With my dad being a pastor, we moved a lot. I was born in Ashland, Ohio and lived there from 1980-1984. Then my dad was called to his first pastorate at Gretna Brethren Church, so in 1984 we moved to Bellefontaine, Ohio. I was too young to remember this transition so it did not affect me all that much. We lived in Bellefontaine till 1991 and then my dad was called to pastor New Lebanon Brethren Church in New Lebanon, Ohio. I do remember this transition. It was tough having to leave some friends that I had made. But as Rich discussed, I learned to cope over time and make new friends.
Four years later we moved to Wabash, Indiana as my dad began a pastorate at College Corner Brethren Church in 1995. This transition was much more difficult. I was ready to transition into High School and I had to leave it all and go to a completely new school in a new state. I remember not wanting to move but it was not my choice really.
I have since moved a few more times going back to Ashland, Ohio for college in 1999; back to Wabash for one year out of college, back to Ashland for seminary in 2005 and then here to Columbus, Ohio in 2008. All those transitions were much easier and I had friends to help me cope along the way.
Trying new things can be hard for some. Also, as previously stated, there is no quick fix for these transitions. It takes time to find out who you are and who you want to be. For me, the easiest way to deal with these was to make new friends. I had to also find connections with people in situations where I felt comfortable, like going to sporting events, and make connections so I would not become completely isolated.
Just some random thoughts I have about all this: Looking back on all these situations I feel that somehow I was fine with the transition of moving. The biggest issue I have now is wondering if I am not in a “transition” am I ok with that? Can I settle down. Can I enjoy life sitting still or staying in one place? A question I have to ask myself is: Am I not looking deeper into what God wants me to do here in Columbus because I am afraid that if I find that, I am once again going to be moving along somewhere else?
Maybe you are like me and have these thoughts of what to do with your life. I think that those that are in some phase of transition and those that are not can possibly be searching for the same things. God, companionship, friendship, acceptance and self worth. If so, questions that examine how we feel during these transitions or lack there of can be important ones to ask ourselves.